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My 34 yr old wife diagnosed w/breast cancer on 12/19/12 had CT scan 1/21/13 learned it had metastasized to her kidney, bilat mastectomy 1/25/13 feel so lost, doesn't seem to be much info on it spreading to kidney. Has this happened to any one else?

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  • Sharon Danielson Profile
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    Survivor since 2007
    Joel, I know we are all so sorry to hear about your dear wife. You are still in a bit of a discovery phase even though she is heading into surgery in a couple of days. I would not despair as much can be done in regards to treatment of breast cancer in all stages. This is going to be a big upcoming surgery and she will need you, probably more than she has ever needed you. I usually tell women heading into this battle, they need to put on their warrior panties.... you, I will tell you need to put on your warrior boxers! Be positive, and supportive, do not go to "the dark place." It is easy to slip into thinking the very worst...try not to do that, it won't help either of you. Be her protector...don't let people around her start telling her horrible stories about "Aunt Millie." New treatments are different and numerous compared to Aunt Millie's day. Your wife is terrified as are you. Actually, as time goes by and you hear her treatment plan both your mind and hers will actually feels some relief because you know how her care team will be proceeding. God's blessing, please keep in touch. We are a supportive group here and will share our experiences with our various journey's. Take care, Sharon
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      Sharon,

      Thank you for your support you are right if is easy to go to the dark place when i am at work and away from her and our kids. At home we are easily distracted with a 4yr old and 7 yr old so we both are strong. We will get through this.

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    Joel, I couldn't of said it better then Sharon. I know that my husband standing by my side while I go through this journey has been so beneficial to my recovery. Hang in there and when times get hard lean on God. I'll be praying for u both.
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      Norma,

      Thank you it is comforting knowing so many people care.

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      You're so welcome and if she ever wants to talk please give her my email or if you'd want to talk
      norma_mares@yahoo.com

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    So sorry for your situation, but the ladies are right. This is a new day in cancer treatment . You will be her strength as only a husband can be. Stick with us and I hope she will eventually be able to share and lean on us also. God bless and we wait to hear of her treatment plan. :-) Jo
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      Jo,

      Thank you, we are still waiting on the treatment plan originally before we found out about the kidney it was going to be 4 rounds of chemo, 5 weeks radiation, herceptin, tamoxifen for 5 years then have her ovaries removed when she turns 40.
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      Jo,

      Thank you, we are still waiting on the treatment plan originally before we found out about the kidney it was going to be 4 rounds of chemo, 5 weeks radiation, herceptin, tamoxifen for 5 years then have her ovaries removed when she turns 40.
      As she is ER Pr HER2/neu

      Now we don't know what the plan is until we meet with a urologist after her mastectomy

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      ER PR HER2 positive it should have said

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  • Leah Fortune Profile
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    Stage 4 Patient
    Joel if you scroll down we have Stephen that has same situation maybe you two guys can lean and learn together.
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      Leah,

      Thank you I will look for him.

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