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Hi I am 14 years old and my name is Briana, last night I found out my step mother (a wonderful woman) has stage 2 breast cancer. She is 41. What actions can I take? Will there be any situations I would have to act fast?

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    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    You can be by her side. That's the best course of action. You can educate yourself a little which will put you mine at ease. Cancer is not a death sentence. Women live productive lives everyday after being diagnosed. She will go through a few things but as long as you guys are there to support her she will be fine. God Bless
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    • nancy  wilcox Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      well said !

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  • Nancy Ries Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    Briana, how lucky your mother is to have such a wonderful and caring daughter. The best thing that I think you can do for your mother is to just "be there for her." Maybe help out by doing some unexpected things around the house. Continue to let your mother know how much you care for her and live her. Prayers headed to your family.
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  • Life is Good! Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2003
    Sorry to hear about your step mom. She is very lucky to have a step daughter who cares so much! Stay positive! I was diagnosed with stage 2 bc ten years ago and am doing great! Cancer treatment is consuming, so trying to keep some normalcy in your lives is helpful. Do things with her that brings her joy and distracts her from cancer. Write encouraging notes, give her hugs, and encourage her to rest when she needs it. Keep the questions coming! We are here for you and your step mom! It will be a tough year, but you will get through it together!
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  • Rita Jo Hayes Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    Support and positive surroundings are the best help. I am a stage 4 survivor since oct. 2009. It will be a tough journey, but doable. Good luck and prayers and comfort being sent both ur way.
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    • Briana Hernandez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you so much

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  • André Roberts Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    Briana, the fact that you care & want to be of help is a blessing. It's scary, but she's gonna be ok. Educate yourself - the videos here are wonderful & easy to understand. She will need help around the house after surgery & during treatment. Ask her to join this site herself. We have all been in her shoes & are here to give support & answer questions that you both may have. Prayers to you & your family.
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    • Briana Hernandez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you so much, I loved your answer it made me tear up a little. Thank you for the blessings and I hope god has you in good hands

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    • André Roberts Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 1 Patient

      You have found a wonderful site with a great bunch of women. :)

      over 7 years Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2A Patient
    I echo everything everyone has said. I am 42 and have 3 daughters & 4 grandchildren....they are what is keeping me sane. One thing they did is bought me a stuffed animal that you can record your own voice to & put an encouraging message on it. Every time I am down or mad or sad, I listen to it and it reminds me that I WILL make it through this tough road.
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  • Diane Hamilton Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 0 Patient
    Briana, I think the best think is to be yourself and let her know you are here for her.I don't like people acting different. It makes you feel like an outsider. It may also help to research or understand what she has to do to get better. Ask her questions. She may not know what to tell you at your age. Stay strong and have faith. MANY people survive with this. Even stage 2,3 and 4.
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  • Marianne R. Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    I echo everything everyone as already said. Lean on your faith when you are scared. Your step is a beautiful strong woman. Don't be embarrassed if her appearence changes during treatment. The nicest thing that was done for me was friends organized "no cancer day" sometimes it was going to lunch and a movie or chick flick and all the bad for you snacks my favorite was the basketball game and pizza. Remember she is fighting as much for you and your dad as she is for herself.
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    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    Briana, I think that is so sweet and caring. I have a step daughter that just turn 18. I was diagnosed in Sept 2012....till this day I have not received a call, a comment, message or anything from her. Which breaks my heart. As soon as I read your post, I thought "why couldn't she have been there for me". So, it seems like you already are wanting to help and that is great. From a step moms view......just be yourself and let her know that you are there !!!! God Bless!!!!
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    • Briana Hernandez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Wow thank you so much, I hope things get better for you as well.

      over 7 years Flag
  • Leah Fortune Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 4 Patient
    Your very cute my daughter is 12. Just be yourself you are doing a great job.
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    • Briana Hernandez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you that was sweet, I will.

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  • Tamara Davidson Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 4 Patient
    Right tell her to get on here formsupport and what a sweet little girl u are im 31 stage 4 breast cancer and have a daughter your age and i tell my daughter to pray , pray , pray,, get down on your knees and plead ur case to god to hear her and must do the same ,, but i tell my daugter and my 5 year old son that prayers from children are so POWERFuLL because god listens to the little children god bless u and prayers to u and ur mom
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    • Briana Hernandez Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thank you so much I am so thankful for everyone who is answering my question and sending love me and my mothers way. I tear up each comment I see and am glad I have support.

      over 7 years Flag
  • Sharon Danielson Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2007
    Briana, You are precious just the way you are. Your step mom will have some tough days ahead of her but we all get through it. I, too, was a stage 2 and am living a wonderful life so if you are worried about her life being cut short, I would put that concern aside. Your mom is so lucky to have you. Love her just like you always have. Every woman's treatment is just a little bit different and so is the way she feels through each step. If she goes through chemotherapy, it would be fun for you two to go shopping for great hats and scarves. One of the best places is an online place run by the American Cancer Society http://www.tlcdirect.org/ I don't think there would be any time during her treatment where you would have to be on-your-guard about something going wrong. The treatments are well planned and the only thing in addition that is needed is her family to love her and tell her how special she is. Briana, you are very very special to think of what your step mom is about to go through. You can always contact this group if you have questions, we will be more than happy to share out experiences for you to share with your mom. God's blessings to you and your family. Love from all of us here, Take care, Sharon
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