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CT scan results tomorrow and hubby can't make it (can join by phone if needed). Getting lots of positive support but everyone seems horrified at the thought of my going to appointments alone - do you prefer alone or with support?

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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer almost 7 years
 
  • Life is Good! Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2003
    An extra set if ears is good . Writing down a list of questions helps me keep focused. Sometimes the news sounds like Charlie Brown's teacher. Blah, Blah, blah. Often seems surreal. Sending positive thoughts and good results your way!
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  • Marianne R. Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    I prefer my husband with me but sometimes he can't and that's ok too. The onc appointment I found put I had to do chemo I was alone. It was not good but I made it.
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  • Mary Chase Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    At the firstpt I wanted to go in alone. But I discovered I was so overwhelmed with all of the info being presented that I decided that I wanted my husband there to take notes so I didn't have to worry about getting the info down or remembering it all to tell him later. It was also helpful to be able to go back and look at the notes later. That said, everyone is different.
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  • Rosanna Wieder Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2B Patient
    I went to all but two appointments by myself. Went to all 4 1/2 months of chemo by myself. Plan on doing all 7 weeks of radiation by myself. I have a wonderful husband, family and friends who all offered to take me and be with me. I preferred to go alone. Helped me to be stronger. Totally my choice and you do what makes you comfortable. It's all about you!
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  • Roz Potenza Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    The good thing about bringing someone else with you is that they might be able to be impartial and ask questions you might not think of (due to the overload of information you may receive) or they can just be an extra set of ears for you. There is a lot of complicated jargon in the beginning of BC diagnosis and I, for one, needed help navigating it all. With that said, I did lots of stuff alone when needed. Mammograms, Cat Scan and Pet Scan, - all alone. ;-p Hope you get good results! Love and Luck.
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  • Leah Fortune Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 4 Patient
    I went to a few of the beginning appointments with my best friend. I go to everything else alone, she stresses me out. I tape everything.
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  • jennifer lewis Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2009
    If you have someone, that's the better route. I did most of mine alone because my husband was either working or staying with our two little girls.
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  • Nikki De France Lucas Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I had the same issue, but I'm a very independent person and told them let me do for myself while I can and when I'm unable that's when I need you always a blessing to have support ;-)
    almost 7 years Comment Flag
  • Mimi Carroll Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Some of the questions I ask scare my family, so I think for a few visits it is good to be alone with my doctor. Eventually I will do my herceptin alone, but not chemo. Part of what I have to do is to remember to ask for the help I need... And chemo and chemo week I need help...
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  • Mimi Carroll Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    There will be moments when we are alone.. I went in for my call back on mammogram. Ended up with biopsy of tumor and node and told that it was cancer... Alone... That was rough... And I drove myself home ... First I went upstairs to cafeteria and had a latte and a scone and caught my breath...
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  • A L Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    In hindsight, having a friend or partner is helpful for the ride home (even if you are alone when getting the results).
    almost 7 years Comment Flag
  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    I asked my sis I. Law to go to some appointments with me. Especially the surgeon and oncologist. I went to all test appointments alone unless I needed a ride. She took notes, and asked for clarification when sometimes I couldn't do it. I found after the appointments it was helpful to discuss what was said to make sure we understood it the same way. When we didn't the I could call and ask the dr. For clarification. I also kept the notes so I could refer back. For me a person with me was good. But do what you need to do.
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